"Bros Before Hos: They Guy Code" By: Michael Kimmel

The Guy Code:

I never fully understood the pressures of being a boy. I've always heard boys toss around names like fag, or wussy but never actually thought about the affects of those harsh terms on a boys self esteem. Ill never forget the day I went with my brother Erik  to baseball practice, and I saw him break down. This was after I had quit the team and my father had become the coach. They were doing Batting Practice and my brother had made an error on the field; all you heard was my father screaming “Wussy!” and calling him Erika. My brother freaked out at the fact that my dad was openly calling out his masculinity, my dad noticed this and calling players the feminine version of their name when they made an error became his regular coaching method.  They amount of errors made on the field decreased drastically, I never attributed that to the name calling until I read the article “ Bros before Hos”. These boys would do anything to get the approval from one another and from their masculine coach.

Its funny because I read this article right after I red this months issue of Cosmo where there is an article about 29 year old Justin Halperns New York Times best selling Memoir Sh*t My Dad Says... About Women and Sex. It is about the brash advice his 74-year-old dad gives him. This book proves what is said in the article about the fathers need to instill manliness into there sons at a young age. Just to share one of my favorite quotes from the book; this is his fathers advice on finding Justin's porn stash. “ You shouldn’t have left that porno in our VCR. Your penis betrayed you, son. Made you think stupid. It won’t be the last time that happens.” That's more of a funny quote but what You get from the dad is that he does not openly tell his son about the “man laws” but shows him by example. When Justin was rejected by the first girl he asked to prom his dad said “ Sorry to hear that. Hey, have you seen my fanny pack?... No, I care about what you said; I told you I was sorry to hear it. Jesus, I can’t be sorry and wonder where my fanny pack is at the same fucking time?” His dad shows little emotion or sensitivity towards his son. By example he is showing the manly way of consoling his son with little emotion and no sympathy; how the real men do it. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G44bAN-KsiY